What childhood memories do you have? Childhood experiences form our lives in many ways, some good, some limiting, and some badly. For most of us it’s a mixed bag, some good, some not so good, and some you don’t want to remember.
The good memories are not a problem, and the not so good ones can sometimes fade with time. The ones you don’t want to remember, and sometimes don’t remember, are the troublesome ones. Some of these are big horrible events, others not so bad from the outside, but there’s a long lasting impact on your life. The good news is that there are ways to change that early programming.
For example, for many years any feedback on work or a presentation I’d done made me hugely anxious and I dreaded performance reviews even though I never had a bad one. When I learnt about trauma and its long term effects I realized my anxiety stemmed from criticism I had experienced in childhood. That helped me to control it, but receiving feedback still made me nervous – until I discovered Emotional Freedom Techniques, usually known as EFT.
EFT is a group of techniques based on a wacky looking process of tapping on some key acupuncture points to calm your nervous system and change your emotional response to a situation. It is so effective in calming distressing emotions that a lot of research has been done on it and it is now recognized as an effective way to release stress, anxiety and trauma. It literally retrains your brain!
Using EFT has given me confidence in myself and is now my go to process for any issue, including ‘taming’ my inner critic that kept reminding me of my scary childhood experiences. I’m now on a mission to help others shift from doubting themselves to confidently achieving their dreams. If you want to start now, here’s an easy exercise to turn your inner critic into a supportive fan: https://marionnixon.co.za/inner-critic/
Are you interested in knowing more about how to release distressing emotions that originate in childhood experiences? Book a free call with me and I’ll happily answer all your questions!