As autumn turns to winter I’m tempted to slip into a negative mindset. I love summer, and will always choose being hot over being cold. I find it hard to be cheerful when I’m cold!
One year I noticed how often I told myself (and anyone else who’d listen) how much I hated winter and the days of ‘wall-to-wall’ rain which used to characterize Cape Town winters. I realized that I was both boring my friends and talking myself into feeling miserable.
Since then, when the cold weather starts I allow myself to acknowledge that I don’t like the cold and then I consciously choose to think about other things. I also daily give thanks for a house that keeps me dry and can be heated, that I can cook warm food and have easy access to hot water. Instead of feeling cold and miserable, I focus on being grateful for all that makes my life comfortable.
How do you get yourself out of a negative mindset?
The important thing about shifting your mindset is to first acknowledge how you are feeling without judgment. It’s ok to feel that way. However, if your thoughts are making you miserable or stopping you from achieving the life you desire, wouldn’t you want to change them? And if your Inner Critic is telling you being miserable is your reality, you need to teach it to be more supportive!
Gratitude is a good way to start a change of mindset. It’s impossible to feel both miserable and grateful. I found the secret is to really feel the gratitude, don’t just mentally tick through a list of good things.
If you’re dealing with hard things this can be difficult to do and then you need support. That’s what I do. I’ve dealt with enough stuff to know what hard places feel like. I can help you. Contact me.