Something got me thinking about boundaries recently. It's a term that always makes me feel uncomfortable because it feels like a solid barrier. Barriers are isolating, both keeping things out and in. What are your boundaries keeping out that would be better let in and what are they keeping in that would be better let out?
I prefer to think in terms of developing autonomy rather than setting boundaries. I like the Collins English Dictionary definition of Autonomy : the ability to make your own decisions about what to do rather than being influenced by someone else or told what to do. When you are sure of yourself and trust your own judgement, you can make decisions about what is good or not good for you in any situation without having to create boundaries.
For me it is more empowering to develop the self-confidence that comes from inner trust and self-esteem rather than create boundaries:
- Quieten your inner critical voice by turning it into a supportive voice (my e-book tells you how: download it below).
- Find and acknowledge all the things you like about yourself, and daily remind yourself that you like yourself until that is so embedded in your consciousness you don’t need the reminder.
- Praise yourself for everything you do well, and validate everything you do to your best ability even if the outcome is not exactly what you want.
- Develop a friendship circle of people who like and support you.
Enjoy taking charge of your life!