September 27


Change is hard, messy, and then?

By Marion Nixon

September 27, 2022

I’ve just done a Facebook post about change being hard in the beginning, messy in the middle, and gorgeous at the end. I shared it in the moment because it seemed to encourage the hope that when life feels messy there will be a good outcome. On reflection though, that seems a little superficial. Change doesn’t always take us to a ‘gorgeous’ outcome.

Whatever the outcome of change, you do have control of how you respond to it. Even if the outcome isn’t what you wanted, you have a choice of how you deal with it. You can withdraw into unhappiness, you can complain to all who will listen, or you can acknowledge how you feel and then look for what you can do to improve things.

Acknowledging how you feel can be challenging, so I like to use Emotional Freedom Techniques to support myself in times of change. If the change is significant, I work with a fellow practitioner as that always gives better results.  Give me a call  if you want help.

During the messy stage of change, it’s good to call on all the calming techniques you know! There are several breathing exercises that work well. My favourite is the 4-7-8 method: breath in to the count of 4, hold for 7, and out for 8. This slows your heart rate and will make you feel calmer which in turn enables you to think more clearly.  It can take a while to get your heart rate down, so keep doing the breathing until you feel calmer. I recently used this technique almost daily during a few 'messy' weeks, so I know it works. It just takes a few minutes to feel the difference.
What’s your favourite calming technique?

And if your Inner Critic is having a field day, use my e-book below to change it into a supportive voice.

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Marion Nixon

About the author

I love enabling women make their heart-dream real and supporting them as they grow in courage and confidence.

My desire to help others comes from my personal experience of breaking free from personal limiting beliefs into a new way of life. I’ve learnt how to clear the hidden inner resistance that holds you back from achieving your dreams and want to share that with you.

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