March 28


Step two towards the life you want

By Marion Nixon

March 28, 2023

Last week I wrote about accepting yourself and your circumstances without judgement as the first step towards creating the life you desire. I said it was the biggest step of three.

Here’s the second step: take responsibility. As a child that usually meant owning up to something and the way out was to blame someone or something else. I’m speaking taking personal responsibility without blame of any kind, not even of yourself. Accept your current situation as the result of past decisions which were the best you could make at the time, and take responsibility now for making whatever changes you desire.

The good news is, you don’t need to do it on your own. Actually, it’s hard to achieve much on your own. However, you do have to take responsibility for taking action, for looking for help, and being willing to accept help offered. I’m amazed at how much assistance is available when you ask for it. There are many generous people ‘out there’.

This step may be the hardest one as it’s so much easier to explain why your circumstances are not your fault. That’s just another form of blame. And don’t be tempted to blame yourself either – you were doing the best you could at the time. Blame and shame are bedfellows, so if you find it hard not to blame yourself, others or external causes, check if some self-forgiveness and compassion is needed.

This step may require working through some difficult things in order to change the way you view yourself and your circumstances. From personal experience, I recommend asking for help with this. Contact me for a chat about this.

Responsibility is your ability to respond.

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Marion Nixon

About the author

I love enabling women make their heart-dream real and supporting them as they grow in courage and confidence.

My desire to help others comes from my personal experience of breaking free from personal limiting beliefs into a new way of life. I’ve learnt how to clear the hidden inner resistance that holds you back from achieving your dreams and want to share that with you.

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