May 9


What to do when you have the grumps

By Marion Nixon

May 9, 2023

In South Africa we have rolling electricity blackouts (don’t ask!). Yesterday I missed a schedule adjustment so was suddenly without power without my usual preparations. Feeling grumpy, I phoned a friend and we exchanged ‘grumps’.

That left me thinking about coping with distressing circumstances beyond your control. I have long stopped holding on to distress about things I can’t change. It only made me miserable. I’m not advocating toxic positivity but rather acknowledging how you feel and then shifting perspective or doing something to change your emotional energy.

My friend and I listened and commiserated with each other so we both felt heard and then we talked about practical ways to deal with our situations.  Apart from remedial action, shifting perspective and changing emotional energy levels are helpful ways to get out of a negative slump. Here are my favourite low mood fixes:

  • Exercise: any movement that raises your heart-rate and increases oxygen levels to your brain will shift your mood.
  • Being in nature, or at least outdoors in a garden or park: the greenery of plants (and bird song if you’re lucky) has a calming effect on your nervous system. Combine this with walking and it’ll have double effect.
  • Emotional Freedom Techniques – ‘that tapping thing’. This is my best go-to as it starts with focusing on validating how you are feeling and only when the intensity of that feeling halves, do you start to look at other possible ways of feeling, or seeing your situation, and as those start to feel more comfortable, you can then choose the outcome you want.
    Don’t move through these 3 stages too quickly as then you risk sliding into toxic positivity.

And sometimes you need another person to hear your ‘grumps’ and help you shift your energy and perspective.

Call me to help you shift the grumps, or talk about how EFT/Tapping can help you. 

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Marion Nixon

About the author

I love enabling women make their heart-dream real and supporting them as they grow in courage and confidence.

My desire to help others comes from my personal experience of breaking free from personal limiting beliefs into a new way of life. I’ve learnt how to clear the hidden inner resistance that holds you back from achieving your dreams and want to share that with you.

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